today is my first year celebrating MY birth mom. the fact that I got to text her today is overwhelming + unimaginable. today is bringing up very surprising emotions for me- joy, happiness, excitement, peace yet sadness, guilt.
is it hers?
is it mama L’s?
is it my own?
is it my moms?
i’ve thought about my birth mom for my whole life. I’ve thought about this celebration as a potential. here I am left with many tears and zero words.
still processing all of this.
still sifting through my thoughts + emotions.
the most common word flooding my mind:
thankful for her decision.
thankful for my life.
thankful for this reunion.
thankful for her bravery.
thankful for her honesty.
thankful for her openness.
thankful for her story.
thankful for her.
today, I know her favorite colors are turquoise and cobalt blue.
today, I know her favorite flower are sunflowers.
today, I know her favorite food is mexican.
today, I know she has a sweet tooth verses salty taste buds.
today she knows I am thinking of her and I know she is thinking of me.
today is much more than I thought it would be.
I hear that there is a difference between Mothers Day and Birth Mothers Day. I remember seeing posts flood my feeds last year as we were a waiting family. I love that the community finds ways to celebrate in a unique way. But is there a need to have separate holidays? you deserve to be celebrated and that’s what matters.
you ARE a mother.
i remember trying to picture who our birth mom would be especially after “meeting” so many birth mothers on paper. I tried to envision what our relationship would look like during the pregnancy and after placement. who would we get to celebrate on year later on this day?
we get to celebrate you! Mama L.
we don’t have any pictures of you; just the ones in my head.
we don’t have any of you seeing brooklyn for the first time; just in my head.
we don’t have any of you holding sweet bk; just in my head.
we don’t have any of all 5 of us saying goodbye on the hospital; just in my head.
I will not forget the tiny details of the day you placed her in my arms. i will not forget the details of how our story unfolded. I will not forget the details of your story and now her story.
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it’s go time.
today is your day.
today we are thinking of you more.
talking about you.
praying for you extra hard.
because of you, I get to share our daughters NINE MONTH milestone + on mothers day + for the first time as a mother of TWO.
‘thank you’ doesn’t cut it.
‘thank you’ doesn’t solidify it.
‘thank you doesn’t make it more or less real.
but ‘thank you.’
** happy mother’s day to my birth mom. the one i do not know. the one i’ve never seen. you are loved.**